Below are twenty statements, each of which incorporates one of Lifes most important lessons. Think about each statement and about how true it is for you, every time, in every way, with everyone. If its true for you most all the time, put a “3” beside the bullet. If its usually true but sometimes isnt, put a “2” beside the bullet. If its sometimes true but usually isn’t, put a “1” beside the bullet. If its seldom to never true for you, put a “0” beside the bullet. If you can’t decide about a specific statement, ask someone who knows you well to rate you. Whatever their rating, put that number beside the bullet.
3 = Most always
2 = Usually
1 = Sometimes
0 = Seldom to never
I do everything I do with style, all the time, on purpose.
I succeed by helping others succeed.
I ask people, “Did that help?” instead of “Can I help?”
I bring the same level of energy and commitment to whatever I’m doing, whether things are going sour or going great.
I don’t let people mess with my monkey.
I stand up, speak up, shut up, and sit down.
I don’t buy into or react to other people’s bad attitudes.
I don’t let people turn their poor planning into my emergencies.
I make sure people value what they get and get what they value from me.
I plan on how I will get out of the muck before diving in.
I do what I say I will do, when I say I will do it.
I don’t join in with the rumor-millwrights.
I know when and why it’s my fault and step up to accept responsibility.
I’m a master at getting others to help me.
I know when it’s time to put the old dog in the truck and call it a day.
I give more emphasis to being a better model for kids than to molding them.
I take the first step with people who are special to me.
When people share their troubles with me, I listen to the feelings, offer a little empathy, and follow up with tangible help.
When I say, “I love you,” it means the key to my beloveds heart can be entrusted to me.
When I feel the magic slipping away, I concentrate more on being a better lover than on being loved better.